So why does having your balls busted by other dudes turn you on when you’re not even remotely interested in other dudes romantically or sexually? No idea. Continue reading
Author Archives: DAN SAVAGE
Lust 
SAVAGE LOVE: HEART TO HEART, GROIN TO GROIN
If someone was kind enough to suck your dick or f*ck your brains out—if someone hooked up with your as*—a little kindness and consideration isn’t too much to ask. Continue reading
Lust 
SAVAGE LOVE: BEGINNING OF THE (REAR) END
“But if you and your boyfriend want to give anal another go, TUSH, here’s a crash course in anal sex-ed…” Continue reading
Lust 
SAVAGE LOVE: FINE, PEE THAT WAY
Yes, you deserve some time to think about the naked-pic situation. You might also want to carve out a little time to think about the whole engaged-to-a-manipulative-and-petulant-piece-of-sh*t situation. Continue reading
Lust 
SAVAGE LOVE: PUSSY WHIPPED
“And while abusing pot—and pot can be abused—makes a person lethargic and lardy, abusing meth makes a person crazy and dead.” Continue reading
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SAVAGE LOVE: PREY TELL
Here’s what I would do if I were in your shoes, OCD—I would take my son’s 31-year-old boyfriend out for a beer and ask him a lot of pointed questions: How did you meet my son? Are you having sex with my son? Are you using condoms? What is your HIV status? How old was your last boyfriend? And, finally, do you realize that I will tear you gay limb from gay limb if you hurt my gay kid?
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Lust 
SAVAGE LOVE: BEATING YOURSELF UP OVER BDSM
So how do you find a partner? Date vanilla girls? Trawl online personals? Get involved in the BDSM scene in your area? Yes, yes, and yes. Get involved in the BDSM scene and take out a kinky personal ad, and maybe you’ll meet a nice, dominant girl who wants a sexually submissive—and Ivy League–educated—boyfriend. Continue reading
Lust 
SAVAGE LOVE: OUT DAMNED SPOT!
“There’s no such thing as a bug-free boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife/unicorn/gimp/whatever. And take it from me, ST: Hot, considerate, caring, similarly libidinous, and shared long-term goals isn’t a package that comes along every day. You could do a lot worse.” Continue reading
Lust 
SAVAGE LOVE: SURFACE TENSION
“But accessing the support you need to get through the next six or seven decades of life without sexually abusing a child—support the culture should provide to men and women like you in order to protect children—isn’t going to be easy, Dr. Cantor said, particularly if you live in the United States.” Continue reading
Laugh 
SAVAGE LOVE: THREE’S (BAD) COMPANY
Please hand this column to your husband. My response is for him…. Continue reading
Lust 
SAVAGE LOVE: SOL SOS
I knew this, having seen some of his porn early on, and I accepted it. We all have kinks. But while peeing in front of someone isn’t that big of a deal, shitting in front of someone is hard. Continue reading
Lust 
SAVAGE LOVE: NORTHERN LITES
I headed north last week to do Savage Love Live—a rapid-fire, slightly tipsy Q&A session—at the University of Alaska Anchorage. It was my third visit to UAA and it was a blast. All of the questions in this week’s column were submitted to me by UAA students and staffers. Continue reading
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