Sex education in the United States sucks.
I recently had a flashback to my own insufficient sex education, wherein a couple of pro-abstinence college kids acted out skits comparing your virginity to a sneaker (as in, “don’t let the whole football team wear your sneaker”). There are a lot of nitty-gritty details about sex and sexual organs that we just don’t get to in the classroom. Like, did you know that no matter how much sex a woman has, her vagina will not get stretched out? Or like, what the hell is a dental dam?
There are people out there who think women pee out of their vaginas. I mean, come on!
It will probably take decades to get our government to be as sex-positive as it should be. But in the meantime, I have questions about my body that need answers now. Which is why I was so excited to see the inception of Sexplanations, one of the latest projects to come out of the Hank Green’s Nerdfighter production powerhouse.
Dr. Lindsey Doe is an extremely adorable, quirky, and non-threatening clinical sexologist whose mission is to bring sex education “to the universe.” Her channel will cover all sorts of subjects involving sex, sexuality, gender, and everything in between. In the month since the channel launched, she’s explained sex shields and urinary tract infections, talked history of the field of sexology, and interviewed an intersex musician and activist.
She’s even made a video about female anatomy in which she uses her head and torso to demonstrate the anatomy of the vulva. And it’s actually just really cute.
The creation of this channel is such a relief. There’s a lot going on down there, and not a lot going on out there in the way of reliable information of what is/is not normal and/or safe. Who among the sexually active has not freaked themselves out by reading STD symptoms on WebMD because we’re pretty sure that that is herpes and not an ingrown hair?
Luckily, most of the stuff that we think isn’t normal actually is, and when we’re still not sure, we’ll be able to ask Dr. Doe for the answer.
P.S. If you’re interested in more talks about sex and sexuality and have exhausted the infant Sexplanations playlist, check out Sex Plus with Laci Green. She’ll blow your mind breaking down all kinds of social constructs surrounding virginity, sluts, and menstruation.
And that’s pretty cool.