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Expert advice from Dan Savage, ruminations on sexuality, the occasional hot person and crotches.

SAVAGE LOVE: FORESKIN, AFTERSKIN

Posted on April 18, 2013 by DAN SAVAGE

I am uncircumcised, and the opening at the end of my foreskin is not large enough for the head of my penis to pass through. This means my foreskin doesn’t pull back when I get an erection. The internet says this is a condition called “phimosis,” and a lot of medical websites recommend circumcision. I’m not super-excited by that idea. I don’t have any pain or difficulty with sex or urination, and I’ve never had any health problems related to being uncircumcised. The foreskin isn’t stuck or fused to the glans—the hole is just small. Is there a safe, nonsurgical way to enlarge the opening in the foreskin?

-Dick Hole Panic Continue reading →

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SEX ADVICE FROM ENGLISH MAJORS: TIE ME UP, TIE ME DOWN

Posted on April 11, 2013 by KEN AND ARIEL

Now for my concern: How well do you know this woman? I only ask because when you’re hog-tied and strapped to an old radiator with your a$$ in the air and a ball gag in your mouth, you’re gonna want to trust her. Continue reading →

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SEXUAL HEALING: I’LL HAVE THE USUAL

Posted on April 11, 2013 by SARA BURGESS

While my ex isn’t exactly Shake Shack, he does already know my food allergies, my guilty peanut butter pleasure, and the spot on my neck that makes my whole body go numb. Continue reading →

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SEXUAL HEALING: OVERDRESSED SEX

Posted on April 4, 2013 by SARA BURGESS

Sex for sex’s sake hardly exists anymore, ultimately because someone is always more into it than the other person. Continue reading →

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SAVAGE LOVE: QUICKIES

Posted on April 4, 2013 by DAN SAVAGE

I am trying to understand some sexual fantasies I have. They involve having sex with a woman who has a penis. Sometimes I fantasize that my wife grew a penis. The fantasies started when we first tried pegging a few years ago. We recently had our first child and can no longer find the time for such kinky sex. These transsexual fantasies have caused a large strain in our relationship, and I don’t understand why I am having them or what I should do about them. I do not want to engage in a relationship with another person, I just want to know if it’s normal to have these fantasies.

-Confused But Hopeful Continue reading →

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SEX ADVICE FROM ENGLISH MAJORS: ARE WE SCREWING OR MAKING LOVE?

Posted on April 4, 2013 by KEN AND ARIEL

If I ask a woman to sit on my face while wearing pajama jeans for a half-hour while I stroke myself, you can rest assured that before night’s end, we’ll be f—ing. On the other hand, if I show up at her apartment wearing ass-less chaps and a top hat and monocle, we’ll be making love. Continue reading →

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SEXUAL HEALING: I’M DOING ME

Posted on March 28, 2013 by SARA BURGESS

I mean, you don’t even have to shave your legs to have sex with yourself. Continue reading →

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SEX ADVICE FROM ENGLISH MAJORS: NEVER RUB ANOTHER MAN’S RHUBARB

Posted on March 28, 2013 by KEN AND ARIEL

The first rule of Fight Club is that you don’t talk about Fight Club and the second, third, and fourth rules are that you never, ever put your hands, mouth or checkbook anywhere near a buddy’s girlfriend.
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