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SAVAGE LOVE: QUICKIES

Posted on April 4, 2013 by DAN SAVAGE

I am trying to understand some sexual fantasies I have. They involve having sex with a woman who has a penis. Sometimes I fantasize that my wife grew a penis. The fantasies started when we first tried pegging a few years ago. We recently had our first child and can no longer find the time for such kinky sex. These transsexual fantasies have caused a large strain in our relationship, and I don’t understand why I am having them or what I should do about them. I do not want to engage in a relationship with another person, I just want to know if it’s normal to have these fantasies.

-Confused But Hopeful Continue reading →

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SAVAGE LOVE: A HELPING HANDJOB

Posted on March 28, 2013 by DAN SAVAGE

I don’t see why anyone should object to your brother getting a little professional assistance with his plight. Continue reading →

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SAVAGE LOVE: THE COCK LOCK-UP COCK-UP TALK

Posted on March 7, 2013 by DAN SAVAGE

Male chastity devices, like all sex toys, are sold as “novelty items.” They’re not medical devices, and the FDA doesn’t regulate them. Continue reading →

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SEASONED VETS OF SENSUALITY SHARE ALL

Posted on February 13, 2013 by SEXPERTS

“Lastly, always, always lock the door. Nothing ruins a blow job more than your boss watching you get one. Trust me.” Continue reading →

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GO DEEPER PRESS

Posted on October 2, 2012 by EMILY HOPKINS

We were told we could put this article anywhere we wanted. Continue reading →

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SAVAGE LOVE: FOLSOM PRISM BLUES

Posted on September 27, 2012 by DAN SAVAGE

And freedom, as Dick Cheney famously said, means freedom for everyone—from pantsuit-wearing POS sellouts like Mary Cheney and Chris Barron to kinky straight people and hot gay boys in harnesses. Continue reading →

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SAVAGE LOVE: BEATING YOURSELF UP OVER BDSM

Posted on March 22, 2012 by DAN SAVAGE

So how do you find a partner? Date vanilla girls? Trawl online personals? Get involved in the BDSM scene in your area? Yes, yes, and yes. Get involved in the BDSM scene and take out a kinky personal ad, and maybe you’ll meet a nice, dominant girl who wants a sexually submissive—and Ivy League–educated—boyfriend. Continue reading →

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A COMMONWEALTH OF KINK

Posted on February 8, 2012 by SHAWN MUSGRAVE

BDSM relationships and acts remain technically illegal under Massachusetts law. Bondage and fetish advocates hope for a world where consenting adults can flog and whip without fear of (state-sanctioned) shackles. Continue reading →

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SAVAGE LOVE: #COOLDAD DOES IT RIGHT

Posted on January 18, 2012 by DAN SAVAGE

You’re Doing It Wrong (YDIW) is a social-skills disorder that members of the BDSM community are at particular risk of acquiring. (Others at heightened risk: religious conservatives, sports fans, advice columnists.) Continue reading →

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SAVAGE LOVE: GIFT HORSEDICK

Posted on December 12, 2011 by DAN SAVAGE

If all you’re interested in is a friendship, some affection, and a little non-cyber sex for old time’s sake—if leaving your husband, or being poly, is out of the question—TPS needs to know that before you “help him out.” Continue reading →