Fantasies

Sex 

SAVAGE LOVE: STAND-IN AND DELIVER

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If you’re turned on by both genders—and almost every bit of research I’ve encountered over the last eight years of writing about desire suggests that women often are—count yourself lucky. Your options are enviably wide. Continue reading

Sex 

SAVAGE LOVE: PREMATURE TRAUMATIZATION

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This is precisely why I urge people to lay those kink cards on the table early. Continue reading

Sex 

SAVAGE LOVE: QUICKIES

I am trying to understand some sexual fantasies I have. They involve having sex with a woman who has a penis. Sometimes I fantasize that my wife grew a penis. The fantasies started when we first tried pegging a few years ago. We recently had our first child and can no longer find the time for such kinky sex. These transsexual fantasies have caused a large strain in our relationship, and I don’t understand why I am having them or what I should do about them. I do not want to engage in a relationship with another person, I just want to know if it’s normal to have these fantasies.

-Confused But Hopeful Continue reading

Sex 

SAVAGE LOVE: PTS(EXY)D

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No more swapping pics with your kinky bro, bro, and no more hunting for evidence of your bro’s ill-advised online adventures. Continue reading

News 

SAVAGE LOVE: EAR LABIANS

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“I know enough about sex—and enough about kink—to know that if something exists, someone out there somewhere is perving on it,” says Dan Savage … Hence, “Earlabia.” Continue reading