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SAVAGE LOVE: YOU’LL KNOW, YOU’LL KNOW

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My advice: Go and kiss a girl, go and hold a boy’s hand. Don’t worry about who you are until you find out what you like. Continue reading

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SAVAGE LOVE: HOT AND BOTHERED

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“But there’s not much you can do about strangers making passes at your boyfriend, SAP, particularly if your boyfriend enjoys the attention—and it sure sounds like he does.” Continue reading

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SAVAGE LOVE: ROLLING BLUNDER

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And now, thanks to her, pictures of you are floating around fetish websites. Continue reading

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FREE RADICAL: BEYOND BINARY BIGOTRY

“At [the Pride Festival], we had a great time,” said Ellyn Ruthstrom, President of the Bisexual Resource Center in Boston. “But to wake up on Sunday and see the paper say that Pride was about the ‘lesbian and gay community’… [is] to have those experiences erased.” Continue reading

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THE KIDS ARE NOT ALL RIGHT

How old are LGBTQ children when we stop caring about them?  Is there some kind of dirge-ridden bar/h mitzvah where heteronormative politicians gather with their right-winged Christian fundamentalist buddies to gleefully strip members of the LGBTQ communities of their rights? Continue reading

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ART HOUSED: PARIAH

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Spike Lee protégé Dee Rees’ first feature about a tortured young closet lesbian is everything a character study should be: ingenious, strongly committed, and deeply personal. Plus it features Brooklyn’s sleaziest all-girls strip club, which I’m going to sneak into next weekend. Continue reading

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COMMUNITY FORUM: IT’S NOT FUNNY, ACTUALLY

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I don’t have a witty insult to give you. These recent personal experiences, plus a lifetime in a sexist, violent world, plus the recent community trauma of the Somerville serial rapist, have left me afraid, fatigued, and sometimes hopeless. Continue reading

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SMART PEOPLE ON BAD DAYS: KALEB

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Oh, man. This letter made me cringe, then stare soberly into the distance, then almost cry, and finally laugh out loud, and then kinda cringe again. This is a tough one. But, never one to shy away from a challenge, I sat down with an entire bottle of Pino Grigio and my closest lesbian, Jewish friend to think this one over. Continue reading

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LIFE OF PIE

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I love reading your column and never thought that I would have a reason to write to you, but to my pleasure and chagrin, I realized today that I could use your help. Continue reading